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Reflections — all 33
Short letters written to men, one a week. Each one stands on its own — so start at the top, start at the beginning, or start with whichever question is already following you around.
- No. 33
You say you believe God is sovereign. But do you really?
The gap between head knowledge and heart surrender, drawn from Jerry Bridges' book Trusting God and Isaiah 55.
- No. 32
Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief.
Why Jesus' phrase little faith points to a shrunken view of God, not a shortage of belief.
- No. 31
Generosity is not a financial habit. It is a theological confession.
Why tithing is a floor rather than a ceiling and what it means to give as a steward.
- No. 30
Your kids are learning about money. You’re the lesson.
How children absorb attitudes about money from ordinary family life, with Psalm 78 and teaching them to pray.
- No. 29
Debt is not a math problem. It’s a freedom problem.
Why becoming debt free restores a man's freedom to give and obey, drawing on Proverbs 22.
- No. 28
There’s a thief in your house. You probably let him in.
Anxiety in Matthew 6 and its two roots, misplaced treasure and a view of God that has shrunk.
- No. 27
Waiting to feel ready is its own kind of disobedience.
Reading Scripture and praying when the feeling is absent, and how an election night exposed misplaced trust.
- No. 26
The most important financial conversation in your marriage isn’t about the budget.
Husbands and wives managing money as one, grounded in Genesis 2 and the idea of becoming one flesh.
- No. 25
You don’t have to be rich to be faithful with money.
The widow's two coins and what stewardship looks like on a tight budget with rising living costs.
- No. 24
Pornography wasn’t the real problem.
A ten year struggle with pornography that turned out to be a worship problem surfacing in other habits.
- No. 23
You’re not failing because you’re not trying hard enough.
Fighting pornography through the spiritual disciplines and abiding in Christ rather than filters, promises and willpower.
- No. 22
Why you keep going back to what you hate.
Pornography as misdirected desire, drawing on Moses in Exodus 33 and David's longing in the Psalms.
- No. 21
My pastor told me to put the Bible down.
Expositional preaching versus topical sermons, and why authorial intent matters when a text is taught.
- No. 20
My church wasn’t teaching me. It was entertaining me.
Why an emotionally charged church left him unformed, and what the Nine Marks of a Healthy Church offer.
- No. 19
He was dying. He was still giving.
Stanley Wilson served a young family and taught from 1 Peter on suffering while dying of cancer.
- No. 18
Knowing and living the truth are two different things.
Why Christian men need brothers who know them, and how discipleship happens by watching older men live.
- No. 17
What has the world called you that you still believe?
Labels like anxious, addict or narcissist, and how Scripture names the heart condition rather than the diagnosis.
- No. 16
My doctor said depression. She was wrong.
A depression diagnosis, and how biblical counseling found an identity crisis underneath rather than modifying behaviour.
- No. 15
What does a free man actually look like?
Two men with similar incomes and why deciding what enough looks like changes how one of them lives.
- No. 14
Which one of these men is you?
Three ways men keep the local church at arm's length as consumers, critics or online-only attenders.
- No. 13
God isn't grading on a curve.
The parable of the talents and why faithfulness with what you were given matters more than the amount.
- No. 12
What does your spending actually say about you?
Reading a bank statement as a record of belief, and why giving loosens money's grip on a man.
- No. 11
Why does more never feel like enough?
Financial restlessness in men who have already built wealth and why no number settles the question of worth.
- No. 10
The cycle doesn’t stay inside you.
How comparison, competition and coveting drive a man's ambition and quietly cost his wife and children.
- No. 09
You are not what you do.
Why midlife crisis is a crisis of identity and how a man's roles differ from who he is.
- No. 08
What kind of father do your children need you to be?
Modelling faith at home through prayer and family devotions rather than treating fatherhood as provision alone.
- No. 07
Your children are watching — but what are they seeing?
A father who left an executive career in Nigeria to stay present with his children in Canada.
- No. 06
What if the drift felt like rest?
How coasting can feel like peace, and what Jesus meant by an easy yoke in Matthew 11.
- No. 05
What is your faith actually doing right now?
How long-time Christians coast on past closeness to God, using Jeremiah on the deceitful heart and Romans 12.
- No. 04
Attention is a choice
Why meditating on Scripture forms a man more than reading it, drawing on Psalm 119.
- No. 03
What pace reveals
What a full schedule shows about a man's real priorities and why faith and family need unhurried time.
- No. 02
Still responsible
How a man's duties shift across seasons of life and why faithfulness matters more than escaping the weight.
- No. 01
Where has life been leading that deserves your leadership instead?
How busy years quietly pull a man away from faith and family, and what noticing the drift requires.